Are you lying to everyone? Or just yourself?

Are you lying to everyone? Or just yourself?

It’s time to stop lying to yourself and accepting the truth. There are all sorts of lies we tell ourselves and they’re destroying our potential to develop and grow. So, why do we keep doing it?

As humans we lie about everything. From the food we ate for breakfast to how we feel about our college’s choice of attire. We tell big lies and we tell white lies and more often than not these lies have the purpose of protection.

“The world will always be littered with lies that you must carefully step over and wade through” – Unknown

Lies are a defense mechanism we feel protects us from the uncomfortable reality of real life. For example, when asked “How is the business going?”, most people tend to respond with “it’s fine” or “it’s going really well” when in reality it is not. When people respond saying their business is doing well, it can be seen as unconscious effort to boost self-esteem or feel better.

So going back to the main question,

Are you lying to everyone? Or just yourself?

You may think that lying to yourself is not a bad thing but you are all you have.

If you are constantly lying to yourself about how your business is doing, how your marketing is going, how will you ever expect to grow. If you are honest with yourself it will enable you to have more control over yourself.

If lying’s become a regular habit, try not to be too hard on yourself. After all, most people lie, even if they don’t admit it. Instead, ask yourself how you can break this pattern and be more truthful going forward.

Here’s a few tips on what you can do:

Stop taking constructive criticism as a personal attack. Criticism allows us to build and grow, if you constantly see it as a personal attack you won’t ever be able to make the changes you need to be successful. Consider other people’s points of view.

Don’t try to convince everyone that you’re right. Do thing’s for you, in your own time.

Think about the kind of lies you tell. Examine what scenarios you lie the most in and what you lie about. Narrowing down the type of lying you tend to engage in can help you better understand the reasons behind your lying.

Ask yourself, ‘What’s the worst that can happen?’ If you lie because you are worried about the consequences then sit down and ask yourself what is the worst that could happen. 9 times out of 10 it won’t be as bad as you think it will.

Consider the goal of the lie. Why are you lying? What are you trying to achieve? Dishonesty might help you stall when you need to make a decision, but it generally doesn’t solve problems.

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